Sunday, November 19, 2017

Hoffman Wedding Homily

In October of 2017, I was tasked to write a wedding homily. I worked hard on it. I asked one person if she thought I should post it, and she said yes. So here it is.

Good Afternoon. Please be seated.

On This Momentous Occasion: The Solemn Sacrament of Rebecca Elizabeth’s and Holly Marie’s marriage; I’d like to open my remarks, with the tag line, of a vintage Chocolate and Peanut Butter Cup commercial:

“Two great tastes that go great together.”

That ad campaign was a series of commercials portraying different scenarios of amusing, yet accidental mixing of peanut butter and chocolate: all concluding with the same Eureka moment: that this crazy combination of peanut butter and chocolate results in a delicious tasting candy!

But those were commercials…a fun way to introduce a product that had probably been in the works for years, before going on the market.  Becky and Holly were friends for years before they got together. Was their coming together a happy accident? Or, was it divine intervention?  Ecclesiastes 3 says, “Everything in God’s Time.”

Thus, to paraphrase Ecclesiastes, “It’s time for Hecky.”

I love these girls; I’ve known each of them individually for many years now, and while both have many good qualities, I would say that Holly’s calm demeanor, and Becky’s encouraging manner gives a person a sense of belonging and confidence.  Both girls have an uncanny way of making people feel like they matter.   

So, here we are, 2 great girls who go great together, and love each other unconditionally.   Their long friendship has evolved to a deep, abiding… transcendent love; yet they know and accept the little annoyances about each other.  But is that all you need to make a long and happy marriage? 

It’s a good start. But as the cliché goes, Life has its challenges. Sometimes, seemingly insurmountable challenges.

From my experience, I think the important thing to remember is, when problems arise, you need to figure out if the trouble is external or internal.  Let’s say that ants are attacking the chocolate peanut butter cups. This is an extremely disgusting and horrible problem! Don’t Panic!  This buggy situation is known as an external problem, and solutions are readily available. For example, put the chocolate peanut butter cups in the freezer.  Not only are you protecting the precious confection from creepy, crawly, invaders; you are also changing the texture of the candy -- which tastes equally well, if not better than room temperature candy. What can seem like a problem, may actually be a new way of looking at things.   However, chocolate peanut butter cups melting in the freezer is internal. Or maybe it’s not.  Maybe you just need to turn the freezer’s thermostat down. 

Seriously, if problems are internal, you need to dig deep and remember why you love each other, and why you started your lives together.

Right now, you may be thinking, Duh, Deedz, but at some point, you are most likely going need to call on God, to help you through a crisis.  I really do like the following from Corinthians: If I have not charity, If love does not flow from me, I am nothing. 

Or, from Ruth: “Entreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go…

There’s a reason why Corinithians and Ruth are read in so many weddings. Both Bible verses are reminders, that your bride, or your broom, is the prize. Your True Norths. 

In the end, it’s your lives, your marriage; your family.  Girls, trust me. Everyone has advice on how to have a happy marriage and family.  You will have to find your own way. 

But, with your love for each other, and your unwavering faith in God, I truly believe that your lives together, will be full of joy and happiness, for a very. Long. time.


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